Comments: don't say, "I understand you" in patients with depression 
 
 
The 2014-09-02 
 
 
Source: Beijing news 

        A kind of miss 
 
        A misunderstanding, setbacks, and fell down the world after the setback, say "understand you", very difficult to understand the pain degree of depression ordinary people - head has a growing mountain! 
 
        Mr Sun Zhongxu died depression, worship, love his people to miss. Message, there are many, also some disease of slanting solution to this, thought that the disease is to yield, not mature, also has a "translation so little money" speculation that shows ignorance of depression. 
 
        Old someone would tell at this point, go out to travel, the little girl next door had depression, parents took out for a month. Depressed mood or very mild depression, this method may be available for some people, but is invalid in severe depression. Patients with severe depression lying in bed tears, can relieve the pain of the pill on the bedside table, but he can't afford to mobilize take medicine, a vigor of the medication. Ordinary people seen usually depressed mood. Brokenhearted don't eat not to drink a couple of days, plus thinking trance, depressed for months, after getting better, alive again into a new life. This is a depressed mood. There are so few days every month in a bad mood, don't want to do things, all kinds, or emotions. 
 
        Depression in easy terms (actually quite a lot of depressed patients to use humor to ridicule), the patient is "3 without" personnel: feel helpless and hopeless, worthless. Thought, action, slow response, like back to the mountain, or live in slow motion of the film world. Sometimes the stone mountain in mind long, more long more heavy, lethargy, insomnia, forgetfulness, wake up... From day to day. So unless you have experience depression, don't literally said to depression: "I understand you." A misunderstanding, setbacks, and fell down the world after the setback, say "understand you", very difficult to understand the pain degree of depression ordinary people - head has a growing mountain! 
 
        So, don't say to them, go out for a walk. Cured with running, yoga, meditation, etc, is at best a handful of mild depression, the vast majority of people must take medicine. With drugs to alleviate the symptom such as "3 without", "three late", to combine psychological counseling. ChuFangQuan in psychiatry. No one expects the same psychiatric drugs patients with schizophrenia to K song, sleep back heal, why want to say to the man suffered from depression: sing a song, it is good to sleep? 
 
        Various depression disease reasons, may be genetic, may be too strict parents as a child, may have a direct source of depression (such as divorce, unemployment, bereavement superposition of multiple pressure), also some people just can't find out the proper attribution. We're not going to ask a no smoking history of lung cancer patients with "are you secretly took a smoke", we also don't always ask "why depressed, as if the other party had done something wrong to get sick. Pessimism, despair is a symptom, is a form of management after the mood disorder, and they said "don't be so pessimistic, happy a little", useless, which increases their painful not to be understood and accepted. In principle, all aggravating patient "helpless and hopeless, worthless" feeling, don't say. 
 
        The last and most important in the initiation of suicide in patients with depression, called him "selfish, (1)", "a coward will not strong", and so on. People need to have the ability of self-care, to develop ability to take care of others. Got depression, lack of dynamic action, maintain the basic organic waste may need to mobilize all one's strength. He is not a (1), is to take care of. Want to seek help from professionals, also want to see him, and said to him: "with you, together with you."
 
- emerald green (columnist)